May was so good! I truly didn’t want it to end! The weather was a little less than desirable BUT y’all! We have flowers blooming and the temperature is FINALLY screaming Spring and Summer. So how did I do?
What I Did Do
- Turned off my mouth. I have an Instagram post eluding to a little bit of this subject but I’ll explain further here. I had the goal of listening a little more and speaking a little less. This was mostly due to some interactions I’ve had prior where an individual was challenging my reluctance to just give them a piece of my mind. Instead, I decided that I was going to challenge myself to listen a little more. And, the outcome was so much better than I imagined. I learned some information and the response to that is “the only people who try and pull you down are those already standing at the bottom of the mountain”. People doing more than you don’t have time to meddle. Friends, don’t meddle in office drama.
- A boudoir shoot. Yep, you read that right! Now I can finally talk about it. It is something that I have always wanted to do but always gave an excuse. My excuses were nothing less than “I’m too fat”, “I have too much cellulite”, “I’m not pretty enough”. Girl, take off your clothes, put sexy ones on, grab your man’s shirt, grab any man’s shirt and get to it. I am beautiful. YOU are beautiful. JUST THE WAY WE ARE. Your body isn’t who you are. Your pictures are worth a thousand words of emotions. Who you are is reflected in your emotion, not your body. I am so glad I gave myself that experience. I knew I wasn’t going to do it if I wasn’t comfortable so I did it with my best friend who has seen me naked, muddy, sweaty and at every weight imaginable. Still, she loved me through it all and showed me through her design how much I was valued.
- Remained consistent in my Start Today Journal. I have talked about the process of the Start Today Journal multiple times. I started it a few months back when I listened to episode #72 of the Rise Podcast by Rachel Hollis (linked here) on how to do the process in my own notebook and haven’t looked back. I have accomplished the goal of a boudoir shoot and I am well on my way to the others. I have a few big goals (that are attainable) and a few other short term goals that I need written down to keep me focused. Finding 5 pieces of gratitude has really opened my dialogue and thoughts on the previous day. My gratitude choices to write down make me smile and I look forward to finding more gratitude throughout my day. Out of the 10 goals, I select one to work on and write it down daily so it is always at the front of my brain and I take action on working towards completing it. What a freeing feeling this is than just putting it in my daily planner and forgetting it.
What I Didn’t Do
- Work on my blog as I wanted. I really wanted to give it an overhaul and this month just wasn’t in the cards for me so, I am moving it to the month of June to complete. I feel like that is a much more realistic goal.
- Knee jerk react. I’ve had a tendency in my past to be explosive and in the heat of the moment say things I didn’t really mean or want conveyed in such a manner. I have learned that, for me, this is NOT a good way to do conversation. I’ve really worked on taking a step back and process, even up to 24 hours, for the sake of everyone involved. There are times when a conversation needs that time to process and it is just fine to give it that breathing room, even when others don’t understand.
- Say Yes, unless it was a “hell yes”. I’ve worked really hard on cultivating a response to opportunities or engagements with a no if it doesn’t serve me. We all know that the past has presented me with many challenges of who I am, and what others think I should be. I get to choose the toxicity in my life and over the past month, I chose minimal and it was glorious.
What I Learned
- People in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones. People standing at the top of mountains aren’t pulling other people down. Drink half your body weight in water, you’ll be so busy going to the bathroom that you won’t have time for office drama. You do you boo!
- I am happier when I search for gratitude, and so are other people.
- I can do hard things.
June Goals:
- Complete a Whole 30 round. It has been well over a year that I have really done a full blown Whole 30 round and so, I am committing to 30 days but I have the goal in my Start Today journal of doing it for 90 days.
- Get my website completed. I am hoping that by July, I can say that I have a new website launch!
- Purge my books…again. I have so many books. So many. I know that there are people out there who would probably enjoy them so I am going to purge them, yet again.
I simply cannot wait for summer to get here but I do love Michigan Spring time! What are your summer goals?!
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